OK girls – these are definitely the years that the ‘illicit dating sites’ come in handy – namely sites developed to enable you to have an affair if things at home aren’t so smooth or sexy.
And there are a plethora – Ashley Madison, Illicit Encounters, Adult Friend Finder (OK not illicit and a little hardcoree but many married folk on there), Killing Kittens (if you are reading this page you’ll be a ‘silver kitten’) and more.
- You can quickly and easily contact people in similar situations to yourself who just wanted to have some no strings attached fun without the drama of a full blown love affair that would threaten their marriage.
- Most people you will meet really are relatively sane, stable and just looking for some love and distraction from their otherwise slightly tedious middle aged lives with wives who have clearly lost interest in them – or visa versa.
- Its free for women – yay!
- Its pretty safe and confidential – just be smart, clear your browser history and don’t use your normal email account (duh).
- You can meet some great guys who are professional, smart and good looking.
- You can have some excellent straight up no holds barred sex – yes!
- If you don’t like someone you don’t have see see them again.
- It can actually really hot up your sex life at home and get you back in the mood, give you some great ideas and more. Just don’t get too kinky otherwise you might get busted….
- You can get to hang out in some beautiful hotels and places. Not that we are looking for a sugar daddy or anything but try to avoid anyone who wants to meet in the Travel Lodge unless he is super hot and the sex is mindblowing. The wrong ambience can be a real downer.
- It takes a while to sort the wheat from the chafe – many men have no self awareness, say they look like Daniel Craig and then their photo is of a dumpy middle aged car sales man – real downer after a sexy email communication. Pass the vibrator….
- Even if you pre-qualify a lot by photo and email, you can drive for 40 mins to meet someone who has halitosis – downer….
- You can have mind-blowing sex with a stud half your age who never wants to see you again – hurts the ego for a few days – but is always worth the memory I say :).
- Minor risks of being spotted by friend / colleague even if you work outside the 60 mile radius so you have to keep your cool. Always have a cover story – ie. you are meeting an old college friend / its a work meeting or some such thing.
- The guy can start offloading his marital woes to you and complaining about this life and wife. That is a real bummer – this is not a therapy session and a total waste of time. Where’re the wine and good sex??? My advice is to bail fast.
- If you have a career and family finding the time to fit this in, shave your legs and pussy in advance, find your lingerie and be ready to go can be challenging.